not yet punditik

This weekend I have had a number of experiences that highlighted to me that an examination of motive is very very important, when deciding if to confess or not to confess.  If I have done something to hurt you, and you do not know about it, should I confess to you?  Confession is good for the soul right? What if the matter is a life and death issue?  If it is a stone cold tomb serious issue?  So large, so big that it’s impact in your life will send it veering dangerously.  “Tire burst dangerous veering into oncoming traffic” type of issue.  That there is a high probability that the issue will ruin you, your relationship, your whole life, all your kins life, and that of the next 7 generations? Should I confess?  Come out of the blue and tell you the whole truth and nothing but the truth? Will the truth set us free? The “us” has a “me” and a “you”.  Will the truth set you free?  Maybe.  Finally.  After you have gone through immeasurable pain and wishing that you ha

“Choices have consequences,” the American president told the Kenyan people as they were about to participate in the last general elections.  Now Kenyan’s being the peculiar persons they are, keep on repeating the phrase.  And who am I not to join them.  So – choices have consequences. The elections came and went.  Whether the current office bearers in Kenya were the right choice or not is neither here nor there - for the choice has already been made.  The consequences are clearly not apparent to most of us yet, for it has only been a few months, but I am sure in a number of years Kenyans will either be celebrating their choice all over again, or ruing it. “Choices have consequences”, said a woman next to me to the person at the other end of the phone line.  I wondered what the warning was in regard to – I doubt it was a political choice she was referring to.  It must have been either professional or personal.  Which got me thinking about the whole choice and consequence thin

Do you know how to create the “reverse sorry”?  What is the reverse sorry you ask?  Does even such a thing exist?  Yes the reverse sorry does exist.  It is the sorry that you say when you are the wronged party.  So – instead of you the wronged party receiving a sorry, you end up saying “sorry” to the person who wronged you. Of course you can apologise to the person who has wronged you.  There is nothing wrong with that – if you do it voluntarily, but it does leave a very nasty after taste when you are manipulated into it. How does one end up saying “I am sorry”, when you are the wronged party?  It is very simple really, and anyone can learn how to.  Here is how I do it.  It starts off with me doing something to someone (lets call him Bob) that annoys or wounds him.  Bob may react instantly, or after some time, but either way, Bob does react.  Gathering up his courage, probably with a gracious intention of just speaking out his hurt, and attaining some form of closure,

It is a well known fact that individual apathy, when multiplied results in collective apathy.  Never did, and never will apathy become action.  The minority have used this fact time and time again to gain ground, mainstream and ensure they and their issues grown and mature into the majority.  I call this the minority trap. The minority trap I define occurs when something that was abhorrent or distasteful to the population becomes the new norm.  Something that was perceived as going against a collective consciousness becomes acceptable to the majority of that population. Here is how I have seen it work.  The minority take their issue.  For example – a person or a minority group of people decide that it is okay for one to talk to oneself.  Or they decide they like talking to oneself.  Next is to make the “talking to oneself” real.  They do this by giving it a name.  Let’s call this “talking to oneself” self-talk.  Self-talk, Self-talking, self-talker, self-talkingly.  Nou

I read Sunny Bindra’s post ( http://www.sunwords.com/ ) of 14 th September “Here is your REAL employment contract”.  I uh-huh’d and mmh’d all through it.  It’s been a while since anything he wrote made me stop and think.  It was different from his recent writings  – not just localisation or a summary and discussion, where he gives his thoughts on someone else’s thoughts and idea.  Anyway, let me borrow his style, and localise the article.  Let me bring it down, break it down to my perspective.  Add my feelings and words, give my examples or two, but basically not offer any new idea? That was my original intention.  Epiphanic thought though followed my reading of the article.  Something I already knew, had suddenly became a truth. He says I am a human “resource”.  He lies.  Yes – from my perspective, he lies.  The truth is worse.   Servitude is what it is.  Indentured servitude.  Indentured by self.  Indentured by fear.  Indentured by need. I thought I was onto a g