Skip to main content

Posts

Showing posts from October, 2019

Hurt people hurt people series – 5 – Dear Hurter, I remember

Dear Hurter image from  https://livelifehappy.com/ I remember. I had a fantasy.   I tried to live it.   Of what we were like.   Of what we could be like.   Of what you were like.   Of what you could be.   My fantasy was love bound.   I wanted to be loved.   For the whole of me.   My beautiful parts.   My ugly parts.   I maybe wanted to be love too much.   Unconditionally.   Because I got told not too long ago – I love too much, care too much.   I would like to let you know that I love you.   Yes I do.   I have loved you moment after moment, for years.   Unreservedly, until the point where my loving you started to kill me.   At that point, the love I have for myself welled up and pushed back at the love I bore for you.   Because unlike my irrational self, my intuitive self knew.   My intuition knew. At some point, my higher self told me this is not right, something is not right.   And slowly I started to listen.   I had no choice but to listen.   It was persist

Hurt people hurt others series – 4 – Dealing the Hurting

image from  https://www.legalnomads.com/ Recognition of the Hurting is the first step.  Then recognition of the source – who is the Hurter.  Then of yourself as the Hurted. Study on it.   The Hurted and the Hurter.   And on the Hurting.   Know what it is.   No matter what your mind tells you, believe what you hear, what you see.   You are right.   And once you open yourself to the acceptance, then the learning, you will understand more.   Research.   Amass knowledge.   Knowledge is power.   . Learn the Hurter.   You will be matching them on their knowledge of you.   Look at their behaviour.   Their reactions.   Identify the patterns.   Find out the tactics they use.   Listen and read stories of others who have been hurt.   You will recognised your own life, and what has been happening to you.   What you have sensed was not right will be revealed as not right.   The no sense that is in your life that you have sensed will make sense now.   What you spent years wondering abo