not yet punditik

Manipulation is defined as behaviour that influences someone or controls something in a cleaver or dishonest way, to influence or manage shrewdly or deviously, to tamper with or falsify for personal gain.   When I manipulate, I "influence, manage, use, or control" things, people and situations to my "advantage in an artful or indirect" manner.   I "handle". I can manipulate you in such a manner, that it is clear to you, the "manipulatee" that I am manipulating you; and if you are not capable of escaping my influence then you comply and are manipulated.   I can manipulate you in such a manner, that you are not even aware that the manipulation is occurring.   I can manipulate you, by giving you the impression that I am moving you to a certain position against your will, causing you to revolt, taking a different position and therefore ending up where I wanted you.   I use many other manipulative techniques which I cannot reveal for "I'...

my mother taught me that love is not words my mother taught me that love is hard work that love is fending for oneself that love is our actions that love is the work of our hands that love is woman my mother taught me to love despite the hate my mother taught me turn the other cheek that womanhood says sorry that womanhood forgives that womanhood is strength in meekness that woman is faith my mother taught me to dance and laugh my mother taught me to run, somersault and climb trees that womanhood treasures the islands of peace that womanhood is memories more than things that womanhood is joy my mother taught me that mistakes are there to be made my mother taught me that every woman goes through trails that womanhood has regrets that womanhood is learning  that womanhood is growing that womanhood is peace my mother taught me that womanhood is multifaceted my mother taught me that I am the center that womanhood molds a gene...

I came across this poster which made me remember a note I posted on my FaceBook page in December 2012 titled “I die alone” - quite a melancholic title.  I now much prefer ‘stand’ to ‘die’, so here goes. If I have a family I can rely on, I am very fortunate.  If I have even one friend who has my back, who lends their wagon to my circle then I am doubly blessed. I may have a list of numbers, of email addresses, of friends on FaceBook – and if I am lucky, perhaps a number of physical addresses where I am welcomed.  Some of the items on this list rarely make it to the “most”, or even the “last active item list”.  A greater part of my list is inactive.  Item last used six, twelve or even twenty-four months ago. If I search for the recently used item on that inactive list, it will most likely belong to the person who saw me as a means to an end, who identifier an opportunity I could offer and snatched it up. Once they had what they needed, they upped and run ...

Management by scarcity is a whole new concept for me. I am still wrapping my brain around it, still thinking and ruminating on it. What is amazing, to me at least, is that the concept exists, plus the concept is practiced. Does it work?  How does one implement it?  This is how you go about it; Goals.  Set goals.  Then change them regularly at different forums with various and different team members. Direction.  Change direction and the road map to the goal frequently.  Turn left, turn right, then circle back. Yep - that's the way to go. Deadline.  Set them.  Then I make sure that everyone understands that the deadline is not fixed and can change at any time. Responsibilities and structure.  Never ever define a structure on paper.  Even if you do, make sure the structure is totally flat.  With the ceo on the top and all others on the next level.  Leave everything hazy so that no one knows who is responsi...