The whipper and the whippee

I watched the clip of the man being whipped in a restaurant and I wept. I wept - not for the whipping,
not for the pain, not for the indignity of that moment. I wept for something larger than that moment, or those moments.

Yes the whipping was a violation. The whipper abused. The whippee was diminished and violated.

For the whipper – I asked myself – why did he do it? –why did I do it? What must be my mental thought process to think that this will teach a whole grown person, make them pay for the mistake they have done, make reparation, or make them not do it again? What kind of pavlovian experience have I been through, experiment am I conducting – because this is not first time I am doing this.

For the whippee – I asked myself – why did he allow it? – why did I allow it? What state am I as person in – spiritually, soulicaly, physically to allow such a violation? What has come before in my life, conditioned me before in my life, to be able to accept my current debasement?

I thought about the kind of pasts both have, the kind of past I have, and wept. We carry our pasts with us. They rule us. And until we know this, acknowledge this, deal this – we live the past in the now, over and over again. And we live the past in our future, over and over again.

I thought about the kind of future both have, the kind of future I have, and wept.

I thought about the kind of seed both had sowed at that moment for the future, the kind of seed I was sowing at this moment for my future and wept.

I wept!

For the whipper and the whippee.

And for me.

I wept.

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